How Dare You (Racists) Define Me

I will not them define me

واستعينوا بالصبر والصلاة

“And seek assistance through patience and prayer…” [al-Baqarah 2:45].

I don’t know that the fuss is about.

So, a few people are calling me [Muslims] terrorists and telling us to go back to our own country.

I’m a sand nigger.

I’m a rag head.


“Let’s kill them all!”, they say.

Well, I refuse to let these words scare me, let alone, define me.

I absolutely won’t.

What am I afraid of? A few thousand million people behind their screens, cursing out “them Mozlems” and “terrorists”? Driving in my car and having someone yell at me behind their glass car window or even mooning me (yes that actually has happened to me)? Being spit at? Pushed? Yelled at?

No. I refuse to let some ignorant people scare me into not living my life. Instead, i’ll make it a point to wear my hijab even more proudly than I have been. I attend the mosque more regularly. I continue to shop at grocery stores and the mall, as usual. I take my children out to play, and spark up a conversation with a child’s mother whom they are laughing with.

Perhaps, I’ll smile more. I lend a hand when it is needed; opening the door for the next person or giving my cart to the person getting out of the car. I show my sincere appreciation to the store clerk. I, basically, demonstrate how a Muslim, a real Muslim, is taught to act.

All of this hatred lurking among us, is a blessing in disguise. It’s making me into a better Muslim. it’s helping me re-evaluate why I feel so lucky to be born Muslim. It helps me plan how I would like my children to learn our religion and the right way to portray it.

Did we forget, fellow Muslims, what our beloved Prophet Muhammad (Peace Be Upon Him) and his companions had to endure during his years spreading the word of Islam. They were tortured, mentally, emotionally and physically. God bless the Prophet Muhammad and his companions, we are his followers, so let’s make him proud of his Ummah (community).

Listen, we hate these extremists perhaps more than you do. For the unspeakable  it’s done over the years. For the millions of Muslims it tortured and people it has murdered. For what it has done in the name of our religion. Our beautiful, peaceful religion. To my non-Muslim readers, fear not the religion of Islam. Ask. Ask a Muslim all of the questions you are wondering. Don’t be afraid of us, we have more in common than you think.

To my Muslim brothers and sisters, ask Allah (God) to grant us patience and steadiness during this test. It is no surprise that Allah has mentioned patience at least 90 times in the Quran.

بلى إن تصبروا وتتقوا ويأتوكم من فورهم هذا يمددكم ربكم بخمسة آلاف من الملائكة مسومين

“Yes, if you remain patient and conscious of Allah and the enemy come upon you [attacking] in rage, your Lord will reinforce you with five thousand angels having marks [of distinction] “ [Al ‘Imran 3:125].

Take this time to revert your hatred and annoyance to educate those around you. Educate through action as well as speech.

I understand, just as well as you do, that it hurts. The words hurt. I am not trying to dismiss that, all I’m saying is that I will not let these racists define me, or my children.


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